And it doesn’t mean becoming a hermit and sheltering yourself away from those who refuse to acknowledge the illusory nature of what is presented in mainstream culture as ‘reality.’
Being an individual means honouring yourself…all parts of yourself…your wants, needs, desires, shortcomings, gifts, boundaries, potential…all of it.
When we truly honour ourselves, we in fact soften in relation to those who we may have previously felt tension with.
Because when you honour yourself you recognise and deeply respect the inalienable right that each and every one of us has to our own life.
In fact, that’s all we can truly hope for ourselves… and everyone else, that we do not take for granted the fact that our lives are our own.
This fleeting experience will one day reach its final cadence. It is imperative we develop the courage and fortitude necessary to follow our bliss, to speak our minds and to pursue our highest calling, regardless of the adversity we appear to be faced with.
However this new found relationship with those around us doesn’t come without its growing pains.
The primary struggle most people come up against in this process is the ‘crowd.’ Be it friends, family, colleagues, religious groups etc. The moment you begin to question the moral code conditioned upon you by these various collectives you will no doubt be met with skepticism, passive-aggressive and also not so passive-aggressive behaviour.
All of these covert and overt responses are attempts to remind you of the unspoken agreement you have with these people…the agreement in which they won’t mention the ‘quiet desperation’ and self-loathing nature of the lives they live as long as you agree not to point it out or question it for yourself.
You have dreams, aspirations, goals and desires beyond the muck of the collective psychosis of those around you? How dare you?
Choosing to pursue your inner calling in the face of the projections of guilt and shame is one of the early signifiers that change is looming for you. Patterns are being recognised, the invisible walls are being noticed and you start to become cognizant of the fact that there is an attainable reality beyond that which you have been initiated into.
I have a huge amount of empathy and respect for any individual that chooses authenticity and refuses to relinquish the inner glimpses of another life that is possible to them.
A life where the outer reflects the inner. A life where congruence is the signpost of success, integrity is its cornerstone and prosperity is the reward of having not only opened our eyes, but taken consistent action to free ourselves from the burdens of ignorance.